Every day I think about the choices I make. Every day I get stronger when I say the word no. Then, there are those times where I ask, “Should I be saying no or would not yet make more sense?” What about you, are there times that you would rather not give an answer and really don’t know what that answer should be?
Life is not just about yes and no. There is another term you will want to learn about. Using not yet is a powerful way of helping you put good ideas on the back burner.
The answer isn’t always clear.
Lots of time I find that I don’t know whether I should go forward or put a project on the back burner. I’ve learned that I can’t do everything that needs to be done at once. I have to learn to prioritize and put things in the not yet bucket.
Not yet isn’t about finding a way to not give an answer. That’s where the word no comes in. If you don’t want to do something or know you’re never going to get around to it, you need to say no. If it’s something you really would like to do and just don’t know when, not yet is a perfectly fine thing to say.
Don’t always feel you need to give an answer.
Not yet allows you to think about your next steps. Not yet can become a yes or it could even become a no. When you say not yet you’re giving yourself time. Time to make a wise decision.
I’ve wanted to write a book for several years. When I started to think about writing it the task just seemed too daunting. I never gave up on the project I just put it in my not yet file. I finally became clear on why I wanted to write a book, what it would do for me and found a strategy that will work.
I’m now ready to give an answer about writing my book. It’s moved from the not yet bucket to the in process one. Do you have any major projects that you could move from not yet to in process? Do you even have projects that are in three buckets? If not, get started now!
If you delay, ask yourself some really good questions.
When you put something like a book into the not yet bucket ask yourself if it should be there. Lots of times we delay on a project or idea because we’re not ready to take it on. Lots of time it just doesn’t make sense when we’re thinking about it. If it continues to live there, get rid of it. These type of projects just take up room in your mind crowding out things you really want to do.
Some questions you might want to think about asking:
- What would happen if?
- Why does this make any sense?
- Does this move me towards or away from where I want to be?
- Is this a motivator for me or others?
- Can I afford to or do I want to say no?
- Why is yes better than no?
Only when you get answers to these questions should you decide what bucket to put your idea in. If it’s really compelling just say yes. If the opposite is true, say no and move on. If you can’t really decide where it goes, it’s OK to put it in not yet think about it from time to time.
You can only accomplish so much at one time.
This is the crux of the matter. There are only so many projects you can get accomplished. Management of what’s important for you is what yes, no and not yet are all about. Too often we take too much on, feel guilty about not getting things done and just end up putting our heads in the sand. Don’t put your head in the sand. Answer the question.
Why don’t you leave a comment below if you have any thoughts or ideas about the idea of using not yet in your world.